For widows finding joy seems like an impossible task.  The truth is, the vast majority of widows find it a struggle to move from grieving to healing.  They state that it’s too hard, too lonely and too long.  For them there is no straight and speedy line to healing their broken heart, and so their journey is without joy. Only our actions speak to who we are, so let us be bold as we set our minds to move forward.  Are we engaging others enough so that they will see our need and be supportive?  Healing often comes in our lives once we make others our allies and we can’t do that if we hide behind the mask of “I’m fine”. After years of grieving we start to find joy and a deeper caring of what our future is.  This is not an easy journey.  It takes courage but as we grieve we see possibilities, listen with a positive intent and strive to understand the needs of others as well as our own needs. The sooner we accept that life’s not fair, a flow of happiness will seem to arise.  It’s empowering when you find ways of thriving in this world, as yourself, not someone else’s idea of what you should be.

Personally I can think of no better mentor then Helen Keller, 1880 to 1968                                    (Blind and Deaf – Inspiration to all).

1. Set goals.
2. Don’t let obstacles stop you.
3. Don’t let others tell you what you can’t do.
4. Purse an education.
5. Thirst for knowledge.
6. Live a life of faith.
7. Help others.
8. Make your own decisions.
9. Dare to do the impossible.

If Helen Keller can make a life worth living, then what can you do with both your eyes and hearing?  You can find joy in a simple smile to someone who needs it.  You don’t know just how important you are in this world.  I believe in you, and that you are here for a purpose.  Use your eyes and ears to find the joy your broken heart needs to heal. Mary Francis, The Sisterhood of Widows #thesisterhoodofwidows, #widow, #grief, #griefsupport, #widowsupport, #howtogrieve