I’ve been writing for years about the fact that how we react to life matters.  It doesn’t matter what comes into your life as much as how you react to it.

You need to understand that no one is responsible for your future but you.  You create your current and future reality, thought by thought, because that is the “Law of Attraction”.  What you think and give attention to only gets bigger.  Focus on what’s good so that you will attract even more things into your life to be grateful for.

Now this doesn’t mean that everything well always be great because bad stuff still happens. You will never be in total control of everything unless you lock yourself away from the world and even that’s no guarantee.

The wonder of life is that even when you are down and things seem hopeless, you still have the freedom of choice and can choose who you want to be and how you react.

You will draw to yourself that which you put out.  ”Do unto others as you would have them do unto you” is an old saying that still rings true.

Start asking yourself:

• What kind of person do I want to be?
• Why am I here?
• What do I have to offer?

By asking the right questions your search for meaning will unfold in surprising ways.

I often think about all the widows who embraced the qualities that made them unique (think axe throwing).  As one widow told me, what made her different was also what made her unique.

How you react to the pressures of grief is what makes you unique, please don't give that away.  If we live as static beings, constant and unwavering, we wouldn't be really living.  Instead imagine our heartbreak, but also the positive ways we can react to it.