“I like living. I have sometimes been wildly despairing, acutely miserable, racked with sorrow, but through it all I still know quite certainly that just to be alive is a grand thing.” Agatha Christie
We are lonelier as a community than ever because we have lost our ability to have real relationships and friendships. Real friendships don’t have a point; they don’t need anything from you and you don’t need anything from them. It’s there because of mutual love and respect. You never know what’s really going on with others and in their lives. Therefore, please never get so attached to your opinions that you can’t learn from someone who believes differently then you. You don’t have to agree with their opinions and in some incidents it’s probably healthy not to. But you can stand firm in your beliefs and yet still be willing to hear theirs. This is where you need to know, what is your “why”? It only takes a few kind words to lighten someone else’s life. You can still have strong bonds with others even if you differ in your opinions. Love and respect should always be stronger then your differences. Always know what your “why” is when dealing with others. I’m currently into the book, “Build the Life You Want” by Arthur Brooks and Oprah Winfrey. I think the book relates to this question, “What is Your Why?” The way to get what you want is to first give it away; Love, kindness, support, encouragement and peace. That’s why another question you should ask yourself is, “How much am I giving to others?” Give friendship and you will get friendship back. Give your time to help others and others will give their time to help you, and so it goes on. So, what is your “why”? Any ideas are unpredictable and will eventually fade away unless you take action. Don’t be afraid to ask obvious, even stupid questions to gather more information. In the end what really matters to you - what is your "Why"? For me happiness is in the love I give and in doing so it’s in the love I receive back. As the years have gone by I’ve learned that my happiness isn’t in the things I have or want. “Things” are nice, but they aren’t in my “Why”.All Blog Postings by Mary
What is Your "Why"?
Archive notice: This is a historical post from Mary’s years of blogging. Some older posts may mention products, courses or shop items that are no longer available, as Mary now focuses her time and energy on supporting widows inside her private Facebook community. The guidance and stories remain here as a free resource for widows.
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Widows all need to know - what is your "why"? How are you building your “Why”? Because if you’re not living according to your "why", you are probably living according to someone else’s "why”.
Our “why” is our North Star, it is the light that guides us. I think that to be a widow is to walk a very difficult path. It’s up and down, with lots of twists and turns. If we don’t know our “why” our path will continue to be difficult.