Widows – if you feel that your life is small and you have no future, you need to dream more. Nothing will help you break out of your rut faster than a worthwhile dream that you are passionate about. Make a bucket list of dreams from small to big and then start checking them off as you do them. Start with the dreams that are easy to do and feel how energized and alive you feel as you accomplish them. I remember sitting in my bedroom tired of being tired. I make up a list of ten things I wanted to do in the next twelve months. It was empowering just to do the list and have a plan, a future. Six months after Donnie’s death I took a motorcycle course and got my license. I can’t explain how empowered I felt from checking it off my list. It gave me a small taste of living a positive life. Dreams are vital to our grief journey so take a moment to dream and plan.