Do you often feel like no one is listening, really listening to what you are saying?
Well, then you can imagine how hard it is for a widowed person to share their grief when they don’t feel like anyone is listening to them.
The following are some guidelines designed to help you communicate more effectively with those who have lost a loved one.
- Acknowledge what they said by reflecting back what you just heard.
- Show empathy to what they are feeling by trying to imagine what its like for them.
- Be sincere and honest about difficult topics instead of beating around the bush.
- Acknowledge your share of any misunderstanding between you and the griever.
- Laughing together is a great way to defuse tension so use some good natured humor.
- Don’t ever talk behind the widowed person’s back.
- If your upset don’t generalize – they don’t have the energy to guess why you are upset.